Feeling like crap about your body has nothing to do with your size.
When you listen to your body, and move it accordingly, it thanks you.
Exercise is an experiment and you don’t always get it right the first time. So, pay attention! Become an expert on you.
The truth is: no matter your size, what really matters is how you feel.
Read that a few more times if you need to.
If you have taken a class with me you know that I love working with people. It has been a true pleasure to work with all sorts of different people. Even the crazies! I can find something good in everyone. I see my clients on good days and bad, through sickness and health, till the hour is up. My clients are small, medium and large, young and old. Being a witness to a person truly dedicated and in the moment during a Pilates session is such a gift for a teacher.
Personally I don’t look for anything but focus from a client. Working closely with people allows me to see what kind of person they are, and if they have a negative or a positive relationship with their body. I’ve noticed some of the same body image issues with people of all different shapes and sizes. Even the smallest thinnest most beautiful clients have crappy fat days. They feel wrong and uncomfortable in their own skin- they even feel sick about themselves! I was practically born a size twelve and witnessing this is mind-boggling! All those years that I struggled with my weight I imagined the ease of being skinny. Shoving my tush into a pair of jeans and wishing for someone else’s longer leaner legs was the norm. Seeing first hand the discomfort skinny peeps can have about their bodies started to help me relax about my own body. We are all going through the same thing!
So what do we do with that information? Well that’s a very good question, and I’ll tell you what I’ve been doing to nourish a positive relationship with my bod regardless of its actual dimensions.
- I stopped weighing myself. The number just never seemed right, so I stopped. It’s been better for me. I know I’m probably around a certain weight by how my jeans fit. And that is so much healthier for me than focusing on a stupid number.
- I found a friend to run/walk with. OMG how amazing it is to have a partner in crime to chat/vent/bitch/laugh and sweat with. It makes the time go by so quickly and it’s straight up fun. Yes you read that correctly: EXERSICE IS FUN when you have a friend to share it with.
- I keep going. When it’s been a few days (for you this could be weeks, months, years) since I’ve gotten in touch with my body, I remember what I learned while working with all my clients: we all start some where, and we all feel the same things. We can all feel terrible and fat and stuck. I promise you, you are not alone. If you want to move- go take a walk today. For ten minutes, or forty, whatever works for you right now. Which leads me to my last tip…
- BE KIND to you. Your heart and body want you to feel good, better, maybe even great. Take a deep breath and just be thankful for something. Your body has brought you here and it will be there when you are feeling various levels of success in the future. Thank some part of it. Then take a few deep breaths. Breathing is good and it’s free.
Here is another 'feel better' suggestion:
Dance to an 80’s song like your life depends on it. I’m choosin’ Taylor Dane, Tina Turner or Miss Jackson if you’re nasty. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmcuFD79d6k here is a ten minute dance fest.
Take a deep breath and enjoy the time you have taken for yourself. You can do this- you are stronger than you think! Doing something for your self is always better than doing nothing. Even if it’s once a week for ten minutes, everyone starts somewhere.
To wrap it up, I REALLY want you to feel better. I want you to enjoy your life. I want you to eat food that makes you feel like living. I want you to move your body regularly and be thankful for it.
Rock on you. Life is really what you make of it, don’t let some stupid numbers on the scale or negative thoughts keep you stuck somewhere lame.
Hugs n love,